If You’re Not On The Edge

December 19th, 2019 by

I remember my mom showing me my first grade report card. The teacher had commented that I needed to get more comfortable speaking in front of people. It was a weakness I seem to have overcome. 

While I did not always have a dream of running for elected office, I was always standing up for people and causes and I never felt entitled to sit on the sidelines. Early in my tenure on the City Council, someone shared a quote that sort of summed up my own internal narrative. “If you’re not on the edge, you’re taking up too much space.” Wise words for those who truly want to have an impact.

You’ve decided to run for office. Now what?

December 17th, 2019 by

Let’s face it…there are two possible outcomes in every political race. Filing to run is a relatively simple matter. Winning the race takes skills most candidates have never deployed and will need to learn, strengthen and maximize. 

Campaigns are a marathon, not a sprint. The only time you’ll have all the answers is the day after the election — so maximizing every opportunity along the way is critical. Whatever else you have done in your life, campaigning for public office will be a whole new universe. The sooner you embrace the challenge and hit your stride, the better.

Life Lessons

December 4th, 2019 by

Perhaps the most difficult lesson to learn on my journey is just how little we control. It’s tempting to believe we have the power to alter the behavior of others. I spent the majority of my life invested in that belief. What I now accept is that the only thing we control is our own actions and reactions. With that comes another revelation. All the stress throughout my life was created because I had the misguided belief that my reactions would cause other people to act differently. 

If I could have a do-over, I would relax more, be fully present for my kids and enjoy the simple pleasure of time spent being creative and curious and having fun without an agenda. My kids have taught me a lot through their example. It’s one of life’s ironies that we sometimes have the blessing of giving birth to the people who will challenge us to reflect, inspire us to grow and  teach us the most about ourselves

The Journey

December 4th, 2019 by

We are all on a journey. Better health. New career. Love and loss. Often we are so focused on moving that we don’t stop to appreciate the moments. The death of our son Noah altered the course of my life in profound ways. It is the kind of loss you never get over, but over time, grief compelled me to live differently, to learn more about myself and to focus on this moment rather than rethinking yesterday and stressing about tomorrow. 

Appreciating moments is just one of Noah’s gifts to me. He has taught me so many things. I could easily have been consumed by grief, and in the beginning I could not have imagined I would ever smile again, let alone live a fuller life, more present and aware of the blessings all around me. But thanks to the love and support of family, the insight and guidance of an amazing grief therapist, the wisdom shared by my coach and the special friends who sat with me in the darkness and helped guide me toward the light, I continue to grow.

Today I am healthier, more creative and more fully present. I am grateful for the journey. Of course I would give anything to have my son back, but since that is not an option, I live my life more open and aware, grateful for the lessons he has taught me.

The VERSED Candidate

August 8th, 2019 by

It’s not just about winning
But restoring belief
In the power of ideas
And some hope for relief

Fighting the fight
And expecting much more
And never forgetting
What you’re here fighting for

To present new ideas
To empower and take action
To run a campaign
Gaining great satisfaction

Because voters want leaders
Who can bring something new
Who will do what they say
And say what they’ll do

Do the work
Bring your best
And they’ll show up
For you

Shared Experience

August 3rd, 2019 by

On Mother’s Day morning I organized a gathering of some other women I know who have lost children. They all said the same thing…my husband won’t talk about it…he won’t see a therapist…he won’t acknowledge Mother’s Day…

It was interesting. Every story is different. Those who lost children through illness are different than those who lost children in an accident…those who lost children in a car accident are different than those who lost kids to a drug overdose…or in the military.

Of course, there is no better way to lose a child.

I feel like I have collected so many stories, each with it’s own sad but compelling set of facts and circumstances. And yet each of us feel we were uniquely “touched.” Even death has a community, but it is a community in which each of us feels alone.